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MAY 2021

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The Five R's of Dealing with the Stress Related to Change

By: Dr. Leslee B. Cochrane
Executive Medical Director

Dr. Leslee Cochrane - Hospice of the Valleys

Looking back one year ago, I do not think that any of us imagined just how much our world would change due to Covid-19. Although there remain many questions along the path before us, one thing seems certain; this part year has changed all of us forever. As Helen Keller once said "A bend in the road is not the end of the road... unless you fail to make the turn." What frequently makes change more stressful is when we fight again it tooth and nail, rather than accepting it and making the best of our circumstances. Perhaps Socrates said it best: "the secret of change is to focus all your energy not on fighting the old, but building the new."

Having a plan to deal with stress related to change is important for your health. Below, I have summarized some practical tips from the Crisis Response Network on dealing with change related stress. These tips are known as the "Five R's" and are an excellent way to turn change related stress into an opportunity for personal growth.

Relax

Relaxation is the physiological antidote to stress. There are many way to relax including exercise, meditation and a variety of activities. One of my personal favorite ways to relax is to walk along the beach bare footed in the sand near sunset and watch the sun slowly slip over the horizon until it disappears. Focusing our attention on the beauty around us can hep us to relax and wash away our stress, like the waves washing away footprints in the sand.

Reflex

Reflection is an effective way to deal with stress because it forces us to examine how we are feeling and how our behavior is effecting those around us. Negative thoughts and feelings below the surface of our awareness can cause great damage to ourselves as well as those around us. Devoting a small amount of time each day to reflect on how we might be a blessing to those around us will do wonders for our stress.

Reassess

It is important to reassess your feelings and separate the fear of the unknown from the fear of the unlikely. Reassess your intake of social media and news coverage, as a constant barrage of sensational and frequently negative  information is difficult to withstand. Reassess your relationships and where you are spending your time. Make sure you are investing your time in activities that align with your values.

Rehearse

If there are, particular situations, which you find to be very stressful, think about what you can do to make them less stressful. Instead of rushing through the airport in order to catch your flight, try arriving two hours before your flight, and enjoy some people watching as you wait for your flight. If you find certain people stressful to deal with, rehearse in your mind hw you will answer theme when they put you on the spot and then you will find it will be much less stressful when they do put your on the spot.

Ritualize

There is definitely something to be said for routines, especially healthy ones. Three keys to good health are diet, exercise and sleep. By developing a routine, which ensures regular nutritious meals on a schedule, exercising regularly and have a regular sleep and wake pattern, you will be helping to stress proof your body.

Change is inevitable; but we do not have to let the change overwhelm us!

Getting That Old Flair Back (post-COVID style)

By: Dr. Lynn Euzenas
Director of Spiritual Care & Bereavement Services

Dr. Lynn Euzenas - Hospice of the Valleys

I came across this quote from Maya Angelou this afternoon: "Determine to live life with flair and laughter"

I suddenly had a startling realization: I have allowed myself to get boring. Coming out of the "emotional long-haul of the pandemic", I realized that my flair had flamed out. Adam Grant in NY Times recently (and rather brilliantly) described that state in which so many of us have found ourselves. We weren't depressed because we didn't really feel hopeless, and we really didn't feel burnt out because we still had energy, "We just felt somewhat joyless and aimless... we are languishing...we had a sense of stagnation and emptiness...feels as if you're muddling through your days, looking at your life through a foggy windshield." We felt stuck someplace between thriving and feeling depressed. We stayed in, staying and playing it safe. We were waiting for all the bad news to finally to pass over.

The good news is that now the Covid clouds have parted enough to see the forest from the tress. I could see what my malaise was about: I'd let myself go, I'd lost my flair. Time to put the kick back in my two step. On numerous occasions I have mused with our bereavement groups that in the times which we feel the most stuck, it's possible to look back and see all the answers which were laid out just for us. I smiled realizing that the Maya Angelou quote was one of those gifts, as were the tunes I'd inadvertently collected on my iPod playlist in the past week. I grinned realizing that there before me emerged a musical tonic for getting out of the doldrums. There was my soundtrack, my antidote, to combat becoming boring!

"...it don't mean a thing if you aren't got that swing...

"...It's a new dawn, it's a new day, it's a new life for me,
and I'm feeling good..."

"...don't nobody bring me no bad news..."

"...get up offa that thing, and dance and you'll feel better...."

"Thank you, Maya," I laughed, thinking of how to restore my flair. Suddenly I heard Joanne's voice from the cast of "Company" say. "Does anyone still wear a hat?" So I grabbed an old hat with dusty feather in it, and danced aroudn the kitchen with a sly smile, singing to myself, "U Can't Touch this..."

Look out post-Covid world, I'm taking a vow to live life with flair and laughter again. Find your flair again, and flaunt it a little (even if just to yourself!) I think you'll hear Tevya singing with gusto, "To life, to life, L'chaim..." *

*How many of the songs did you recognize?
See key later in newsletter!

Songs in order of quotations:

"It Don't Mean A Thing (If It Ain't Got That Swing)" Duke Ellington

"I'm Feelin' Good" popularized by Nina Simone,
from the Broadway show "Roar of the Greasepaint - Smell of the Crowd"

"Don't Nobody Bring Me No Bad News," from the Broadway show "The Wiz"

"Get Up Offa That Thing" James Brown

"Ladies Who Lunch"
from the Broadway show "Company"

"U Can't Touch This" M.C. Hammer

"To Life" from the Broadway show "Fiddler On the Roof"

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